Friday, September 19, 2008

Taking control.. .. ..

I think one thing I have learned lately is control over your emotions falls soley in your lap. People have no power over your feelings or thoughts unless you allow them the power.

I think too often we knee-jerk react and let our emotions take over. When, really, all we have to do is stop and think for a moment to gain clarity and control over our reactions and emotions.

So I try to now stop and think.. .. ..
  • does this directly effect me?
  • is it worth the energy I am giving it?
  • how does this benefit me or does it hinder me?
  • am I giving it way too much more credit than it deserves?
  • WHY DO I CARE??

MOREOVER, consider the source! Is this PERSON worth my energy? Consider their emotional maturity. Consider their importance in your life.

And then .. .. .. LET IT GO. You cannot say "I had a bad day because so-and-so did/said such-and-such." NO, you had a bad day because you gave away the control of your emotions and chose to live in what was said or done. It is so much easier and BETTER FOR YOU to process it and release it away.

I think the most important lesson I've learned thus far is to take control. YOU allow others the control to hurt you, upset you, or make you happy.

Take back the control, make yourself happy, and let it go.. .. ..

1 comment:

J and D waiting said...

I think this is a powerful thing to remember. "MOREOVER, consider the source! Is this PERSON worth my energy? Consider their emotional maturity. Consider their importance in your life."
Life often gives us people that get under our skin, it is learning when and who we will let bother us...